The need to show sexual attraction in implicit ways was born in an era of strict rules and regulations, when the attitude to the intimate process was taboo by moral codes and church standards. Both the man and the woman needed to demonstrate to their partner a willingness to take action without fear of publicity and public censure. It was in such cases that non-verbal signals made it possible to learn about sympathy and desire.
To want a woman and not show her is wrong, from the point of view of a normal man. Therefore, a potential partner, unconsciously or unconsciously, tries to demonstrate to the object of desire his interest through sexual gestures and postures.
When a man sees an attractive woman, he involuntarily begins to give out an "alpha male". He denotes readiness for sexual contact with confident postures and showing a high tone of the physical state of his own body. This is usually seen in the following manifestations:
- the man straightens his back and straightens his shoulders;
- tries to draw in the stomach deeper;
- if a man is standing, his legs are shoulder-width apart, showing special stability and strong position;
- it is also important to track the position of the socks of the man's shoes, if he is interested in any attractive person, then they will be directed to this woman;
- if a man sits on a chair, he will involuntarily spread his legs, thus, as if demonstrating his own genitals, ready for mating.
The excited man begins to straighten his clothes and hair in the hope of attracting the woman's attention with his appearance. Instead of an angular and heavy gait, he moves swiftly, like an athlete, while correcting figure flaws, straightening up and removing his stomach
A shine appears in the eyes, the skin on the face is automatically tightened, and bags under the eyes disappear by themselves. In general, passion makes a person much younger and really more desirable for a friend.
Now such a gesture is rarely used, and many have already forgotten about it, but even fifty years ago, thumbs placed behind a trouser belt meant a rude, ostentatious action towards a woman, aimed at demonstrating their own genitals.
The delay in the man's gaze on the object of his lust says a lot. When he looks a woman in the eyes for a little longer than the rules of decency dictate, this indicates his excitement and readiness for closer contact.
Factors affecting attraction
There are several factors that can affect the level of sex drive in men. This factor should include:
- Visual image. The fact is that the face of a beloved girl, the attractive smile of some stranger, as well as any other visual contact that has a sexual connotation, is capable of arousing a man. At the same time, after such signals, images of future sexual intercourse with a woman begin to appear in his head.
- Excitement from smell. The smell has an exciting effect on the representatives of the stronger sex, in particular, a natural female aroma has a similar property. Essential oil and pheromones are often included in some mild pathogens.
- Hearing. Arousal from auditory contact is also possible. The sound of a name, a light whisper can have an aphrodisiac effect for men.
- Taste. Few people know, but arousal can also be increased by certain aphrodisiac foods that increase blood circulation in the genitals. These include nuts, seafood, bananas, honey, and chocolate.
- Touches. Of course, the strongest will be the excitement of the touch. In this case, we are talking about a naturally physiological reaction. Any healthy man will have an erection even after a short masturbation. Increased arousal during intercourse.
From the first touch
Touches have a strong character, sometimes it is they that betray a complete masculine desire to get closer to a partner. Watch the guy's behavior: if he is interested in you, he will do everything possible to please even the smallest details. With a short-term or spontaneous contact with the body or hand, a guy may experience goose bumps all over his body, which will speak of his excitement, an increased desire to take possession of you.
If a young man has sympathy for you, he will do everything possible to demonstrate this in practice. He will try to unwittingly take your hand, touch your knees, remove hair from his eyes, hinting at an increased desire to continue a pleasant evening.
Touch sometimes reveals much more than eyes.
The trembling of the hands, some caution, the fear of frightening off the partner immediately betray the man's excitement.
Together with the touch, he begins to say pleasant words, turn pale, blush at times, feel a wave of goosebumps when tactile contact occurs mutually. At this moment, information is generated in the man's brain, which directs its signals there, than he "thinks" in such situations.
Signs of sexual arousal in men
Sexual arousal is a kind of stress for the body and is accompanied by an increase in blood pressure, increased heart rate and respiration, and dilated pupils, therefore, an indirect sign may be a certain emotion of a man, a coarser voice than usual.
The maina sign of sexual arousalin men, an erection occurs when the penis is filled with blood, and it becomes hard, the pressure increases, which can reach the arterial pressure, which somewhat changes its shape and it increases in size, i. e. becomes 6-7 cm longer and 2-3 cm in diameter and becomes hard. This allows it to be inserted into the vagina during intercourse.
But it so happens that an erection does not occur due to various kinds of vascular diseases, smoking, diabetes mellitus, or some kind of stress and nervous or psychological disorders. All of these diseases make it difficult for the cells of the arteries to relax and, as a result, sufficient blood flow is not ensured.
Excitation in men is much easier and faster than in women and its strength depends on the presence of a sufficient amount of hormones and strength in the body. Also, the level of excitability depends on anthropology, for example, short ones experience sexual attraction more than tall guys.
Excitement in men can arise only with one thought of intercourse and also quickly disappears after it ends, in addition, you can excite a man by flirting with him, exposing your body, etc.
If a man is very aroused, then he has a conditionsexual arousaldisappears very quickly and the process of sperm ejection occurs quickly. For men, in addition to various kinds of caresses, sexual stimulants are also releasers. They can be only one kind of a woman's genitals and touching them, as well as the feeling that a woman is in an excited state. They also include various kinds of auditory, visual and nasal stimuli.
In the process of the sexual intercourse itself, in the process of rubbing his penis against the walls of the vagina, the nerve endings are even more irritated and as a result, even greater excitement occurs, the man's face may start to redden and he begins to breathe frequently. If the frictions are stopped for a short time, then a gradual outflow of blood occurs and the penis begins to soften, if they are resumed, then an erection occurs again and this, in turn, allows you to prolong the process of sexual intercourse.
The greatest sexual arousal and the flow of pleasure in men is observed during orgasm and ejaculation, and the high, in turn, is divided into 3 stages: this is a gradual accumulation of arousal, the highest degree of arousal, i. e. the orgasm itself, and the stage of arousal decline.
Before the onset of ejaculation, the man begins to feel the sweet contractions of the vas deferens and bubbles, these sensations last a few seconds and are a sign of the onset of orgasm. These contractions stop after the release of semen under high pressure, and the high ends there too. Those. it only lasts a few seconds.
After the end of intercourse, the opposite process is observed, the so-called detumescence occurs. At the same time, there is a rapid outflow of blood and a decrease in the size of the penis, and it becomes soft, but if a man is strongly attracted to his partner, then this process may take a little longer.
In men, as well as in women, after the sensation of orgasm, there is a feeling of a refractory pause, this is the period when arousal does not occur even after erogenous exposure. The duration of this period in men is different and can vary from several minutes to several days.
Scientists identify several factors for the normal course of the process of sexual intercourse, these include: - neurohumoral, i. e. the process of blood flow, providing an influx of hormones, which contributes to the onset of sexual desire and arousal; - mental, contributing to the onset of an erection immediately before the onset of intercourse; - erection, contributing to the stimulation of the penis; - ejaculatory, providing ejaculation.
How do you know if a guy is horny?
Of course, for a standing member. This is what many girls think. But this is wrong. After all, an erection may not be complete, not strong, or even absent when aroused. Therefore, staring blankly between the legs of his beloved is definitely not an option.
The guy's excitement is also manifested in such signs as:
- Rapid breathing
- Conversation on intimate topics;
- Cardiopalmus;
- Confusion of thought;
- A choked voice.
Also, the young man may start touching or molesting you. He cannot control himself. He seems to have drunk a little, although he is sober.
The pupils of such a person are dilated, and the look is a little silly. By the way, excitement in girls manifests itself in much the same way.
In this case, it is worth considering the big picture. Excitement manifests itself in everything. After all, if his heart simply pounds or he often smiles, this does not mean. that he wants you. Perhaps the person is just shy.
Signs of a guy's arousal
There are several other indirect signs that he desires intimacy:
- Thirst. Unless, of course, it's really not hot now;
- Inhibition, or vice versa, great activity of movements;
- Adjusting your clothes, hairstyles, etc . ;
- Sucking in the abdomen and straightening the back;
- Unexpected embarrassment.
Also, a horny person will undress you with their eyes, even if he is the most cultured guy in the world. And sometimes, he can simply leave you (in the sense of home), frightened of his feelings. This is possible on first dates. If you have not only met, then rather, in this state, he will go home to you.
And don't forget the dick. This is (albeit stupid) but a proven method. Try to look at him thinner than the belt. If there is "something sticking out", there is 100% excitement.
What turns guys on?
Almost anything can turn a young person on. Starting from naked breasts, and ending with simple conversations. Male sexuality is designed in such a way that the desire for sex comes quickly and is transmitted through images. That is, he does not need a romantic evening and candles to desire you.
Many do not know, but banal hugs turn on guys. Indeed, during this process, the girl is pressed against her chest. That is why you should not often hug your friend if you do not plan to admit him to your bed.
Remember that a guy can be turned on: panties sticking out from under jeans, fishnet tights, a short skirt, a large neckline on a dress, tight-fitting pants, such as leggings, etc. Therefore, you should not wear anything frank if you do not want to be looked at as a piece of meat.
Excitatory factors
Factors affecting arousal in the fair sex are as follows:
- Love. The most important pathogen for women is precisely this feeling. Girls always need to whisper kind, gentle words in her ear. At the same time, love wins not only in word, but also in deed. Therefore, a man should not be stingy with generous knightly deeds.
- The smell of a man. This factor largely determines the possibility of interaction between a woman and a man. In this case, we are talking about natural pheromones. If we talk about perfume, then here it is necessary to approach very carefully, carefully choosing one or another smell for yourself. Therefore, a man should not skimp on such an important aspect.
- Appearance. This factor is also of great importance in arousal. A stately representative of the stronger sex who goes to the gym, takes care of his body and health is already interesting for a woman. In addition, you need to monitor the condition of your hair, nails, even clothes. A woman can be turned on by a nice tie, a nice suit, a slightly unbuttoned shirt, the right underwear, and much more. It should also be noted that some women may be turned on by the slightly spiky stubble, hairy and strong arms, and the feeling of a male shaft. As for the latter, this is already laid down by nature.
- Situation. Of particular importance in arousal is the setting, meeting or date. Many people always strive for the best, the arrangement of things in this case is no exception. It should also include music, which can add more euphoria to a date, a beautiful place, delicious dishes, which also include the aphrodisiacs described above.
Erogenous zones
Some women assume that there is only one erogenous zone in the male body and it is located in the groin area. In fact, everything is a little different. There are much more erogenous zones in the body of the stronger sex. To tune a partner to intimacy, you will have to turn on your imagination and resort to the help of not only hands, but also lips.
Where are the erogenous zones in men:
- Face and neck area. Scientists have been able to prove that these places are highly susceptible. Stimulation of these zones will help to awaken desire in the gentleman. You can touch your neck with your fingertips, massage your earlobes and kiss your loved one on the face.
- Chest and back. Sexologists recommend starting to flirt with your beloved, alternately touching the surface of his back and chest. You can also use the shoulders of the boyfriend, they are advised to gently massage, making wave movements. The back is massaged along the entire spine, the touch is soft and smooth. But often, it is enough just to approach the man from the back and run your hands over his chest, towards the lower abdomen.
- Nipples. This erogenous zone stands out due to its high sensitivity. Touching this area can give your partner pleasure and can cause discomfort. Since the sensitivity of each of the stronger sex is a purely individual matter.
- Stomach. This is an area that requires special attention. You can touch it with your hands, lips and even your head. In Thailand and beyond, the crown massage is widespread. It is carried out following certain rules: the girl sits on top of her partner, tilts her head and touches the top of her head to his stomach, making circular movements. The diameter of the circle is gradually increased. Such a massage will not only help arouse a man, but also increase his sexual activity.
- Hands and fingers. To stay in bed with a loved one for a long time, you need to pay attention to the palms of his hands. They can be: rubbed, kissing, ironing. There are nerve endings on the fingertips, they improve the transmission of impulses to the brain.
- Inner thigh. To quickly tune your partner in the right mood, it is worth giving him a foot massage, by all means affecting this area. Through the arteries, blood flows to the organs of the reproductive system, a foot massage will improve blood flow and ensure a long-lasting erection. For this reason, he is resorted to in the treatment of impotence.
How to quickly excite a loved one in bed with your hands and caresses? To do this, you need to hug your partner by the chest with your hands and press against his back with your bare chest.
In order for "everything to work out", and the partner was delighted with the intimacy with his beloved, you need to be liberated, to be active. The main thing is to feel the man, this will allow you to predict his desires, to read the innermost thoughts.
Should the guy be horny or is he already horny?
There are many ways to check if your lover wants sexual contact right now. As you know, an erection is the most striking sign of male arousal, however, it is, of course, not always possible to verify this. Therefore, it is worth knowing about a few other, less noticeable details that will betray your partner's secret desires.
- Physiological signs. During excitement, small changes begin to occur in the work of the male body - the pulse quickens, sweating increases, and a slight trembling of the hands and voice is possible. The latter, by the way, often becomes low and slightly hoarse, acquiring some velvety and playful notes.
- Sight. If a guy craves you, he will literally eat your body with his eyes. In general, the state of male arousal is similar to a light trance, which will not be difficult to catch in his eyes.
- Posture and gestures. A man burning with sexual desire will always keep his body turned towards you. Often, guys take the pose of a confident macho, folding their hands on the belt and slightly pushing the body forward, as if demonstrating their dignity. Although this does not always work - it all depends on the character of the person and his self-esteem Pay attention to the position of the shoes - if the guy wants you, the socks of his shoes will certainly be directed in your direction
- Talk. If a man's thoughts are preoccupied with your body, there may be long pauses in conversations. This means that your beloved is so obsessed with fantasies about sex that the ability to think about anything else simply disappears.
Words and caresses
If your loved one is in no hurry to go to bed, then you should try to excite him with words. You can have a rich vocabulary and know your partner's preferences, but still feel some discomfort whispering various phrases to him.
Words and phrases are selected on an individual basis, much depends on the gentleman's receptivity. But in order to achieve the best result, you need to supplement the words with affection.
Fondling is a broad concept that can include hand, foot, kissing, and other elements of love play. Oral contact is also referred to as caressing, however, as well as intimate massage.
If a decision was made to comprehensively influence the beloved, then you can combine affection, kisses, stroking with words. This will allow the man to reach the peak of arousal faster.
If all of the above methods do not work, then you should think about using the pathogen. Aphrodisiacs, lubricants, tablets and creams act as such a remedy. But it is better to coordinate their use with a partner - this will help to avoid embarrassing situations.
Signs of clear attention
In fact, it's not difficult to understand if a man wants you. He will not hide it much.
It is important for women not to show their sympathy and to be modest, mysterious, intrigue and make men suffer in ignorance. But the stronger sex is arranged differently - its representatives are usually very direct, open and persistent
Most likely, a man will show signs of attention, because he does not just want a woman - he certainly thinks how to get her. And in order to achieve this, you need to persistently look after her, give nice gifts and flowers, say beautiful compliments, and so on.
Having sexual lust will cause him to choose special gifts and speak special words. It will be different from romantic youthful impulses, and certainly have a subtle sexual overtones. So you can reliably and accurately understand what is on the mind of the gentleman.
If he presented you with sexy lingerie, a negligee or a dressing gown - this is already an open offer, and not even a hint. But this rarely happens, more often a man who wants a woman gives her very cute trinkets - soft bears, cute jewelry, bouquets and sweets.
He suddenly became so beautiful . . .
Every man understands perfectly well that in order for you to fall into his strong arms, he must be attractive.
So he suddenly changes - he puts on fresh shirts, he always smells good, and you can no longer remember when he was unshaven.
Appearance will give you a direct answer - if he always looks neat and fresh, going to a meeting with you, it is likely that he is attracted and hopes to get you.
Hands stretch like a magnet . . .
For every man, the female body is an object of admiration. And if a man wants you, then first of all he will experience an irresistible desire to touch. Distinguishing simple, friendly touches from those with sexual connotations is easy.
If his touches are gentle, very light, often as if accidental, this is a clear sign of sexual desire.
It is also worth knowing the places to which men's hands reach. This place is slightly below the waist (a well-mannered man is unlikely to grab you by the buttocks, although he will certainly have such a desire), hair and neck, face, wrists, hips, knees, legs.
Also, men are always very aroused by the female smell. Therefore, you will be able to notice that a man seeks to smell you - to say something in his ear, while inhaling the smell of your hair, to kiss, to inhale the scent of perfume.
He's better than the rest!
If you are with your chosen man in a common company, and there are other representatives of his gender, then he will obviously try to be better than the rest.
Men by nature are leaders, conquerors, it is very important for them to be the first. So he will do his best to be much better than others in order to achieve your location
In general, it will not be difficult for a woman to determine that a man wants her very much.
Everything in him betrays this desire: the eyes become, as it were, with a drag, the gaze wanders and cannot stop in front of your eyes, he is a little nervous, pays obvious attention and seems to be watching you like a predatory animal
Even the most modest and timid guy will not be able to hide his desire. It is too strong, and one way or another it will still be manifested.
How to use this knowledge is another matter. A woman is born to be admired, to be the object of lust and dreams.